We tend to fall short of the high expectations we set for ourselves when we consciously try to find happiness. If we believe happiness is supposed to look a certain way, we’re going to be let down. If we fall short of what we want, we’ll feel justified in our unhappiness. Our relationships become far stronger and more fulfilling when we stop searching for someone to meet our needs and start using relationships to meet someone else’s needs instead. Happiness is a choice. Not a